The Fears of Putting Relatives into Nursing Homes

There is simply no easy way to move a loved one into a nursing home. Even though some stays are short, and usually absolutely necessary, there is much symbolic difficulty in transitioning one into a place where they will not live entirely on their own. In many cases it is adult children who make the difficult choice to help their aging parent find a living situation where they can be safe and secure and receive the day-to-day assistance they need to live to their fullest each day. Yet, our Chicago nursing home attorneys appreciate that the symbolism of the move is incredibly difficult, involving transitions in life and reminders of the aging process.

A recent WLTZ story talked about the challenges and fears of those moving a loved one into a nursing home. Sadly, all nursing home neglect attorneys know that the fears are not all symbolic–there is very real concern about the abuse and neglect that is rife in so many homes.

The article shares the story of one adult daughter dealing with her parents new situation. Married for 65 years, the elder couple has enjoyed a lifetime of love and happy memories. But their health has not remains static. The elder mother stopped driving a year and a half ago; the father is now legally blind. It is simply impossible for them to live like they used to.

The daughter noted, “They’ve almost become like my children again. They totally depend on someone else for all their needs.”

Yet the daughter is leery about having to move one of her parents into a nursing home. That is because she saw what happened when her grandmother moved into a skilled long-term care facility. She felt that the experience was not the best one for her grandmother, claiming that many professionals working in the home “get cold to things they see everyday; I know it happens all the time.”

Each Illinois nursing home neglect lawyer at our firm is aware of the reality behind those concerns. Abuse and basic neglect are hallmarks of some homes.

Yet, for all the fear about these homes, at the end of the day the best option is sometimes still to move a loved one into the facility. Even the most well-intentioned relative sometimes cannot provide the oversight and expert vision needed to ensure proper care all day, every day.

So what can be done?

The most important thing is to find the nursing facility that is the best fit Researching the home’s track record of abuse is a good starting point. Also, it is crucial to find a home that is close enough to allow for frequent visits. For one thing, these visits will be cherished by loved ones. In addition, the visits are an important check on the care being provided. Visits should not fall to a single loved one. Instead, as many friends and family members as possible should make as many visits as possible–preferably at different times. This ensures that there are many eyes on the lookout for any signs of mistreatment.

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